If you ever feel like ending your life, it’s ok. It’s normal to think about suicide sometimes. You aren’t weird. Life can be hard and painful and overwhelming. But your life is still valuable. YOU are valuable. We want you here. I want you here.
If you feel like you want to end your life, here are 18 things you can try:
- Plant a tree or flower for every wound you’re carrying.
- Write a book where a character gets healed, overcomes, makes it through.
- Do kind things for other people and don’t tell anyone.
- Try new things until you find something you love, even if it takes weeks, months, years.
- Train for and run a 5K or 10K or marathon.
- Do nothing. Take a break. Slow down. Remember what your breath feels like, what your heart sounds like, all the grace flowing out of your hands.
- Peel open your heart in the presence of someone you trust. Tell them what you feel, what you think, what you fear and hope for and love.
- Travel somewhere new and fall in love with a park, a coffee shop, a feeling of an unfamiliar city nestling its way into your bones.
- Find what kinds of books you like and then read as many as you possibly can. Learn that you can turn pages. You can move forward.
- Practice forgiving yourself. Practice forgiving others.
- Get outside every chance you get. Go into the peace of wild things. Rest in the grace of the world.
- Create something you think is beautiful or meaningful or devastatingly hopeful.
- Start filling your space with good things and ridding it of painful or unnecessary things.
- Memorize all your favorite songs and poems and quotes, including the pauses and backbeats and rhythms.
- Make plans to hang out with friends or to do something you enjoy by yourself. Buy tickets to the concert. Sign up to volunteer. Fill up your calendar with things you want to stay alive to do.
- Send thank you cards to everyone who has positively influenced you, who has treated you kindly, who has shown you love.
- Acknowledge in whatever way you know how that what you feel is valid and real and a normal thing for humans to feel, and that it’s also valid to care for yourself and to seek healing and to have hope.
- Reach out for help. Text Crisis Text Line.* Call a hotline. See a counselor. Make an appointment with a doctor. Go to an emergency room.