“My dad always told me that things would get better. I guess he was a liar.”
A person I was texting with on Crisis Text Line recently told me this. She had a nightmare childhood and her life kept getting worse as an adult, so she shared this devastating insight with me. I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately.
We always get told that things will get better. That the darkness won’t last. That the pain won’t linger. That for every valley, a mountaintop is coming.
And perhaps we even tell others these things. I know I’ve used such sentiments hundreds of times.
We say these things because we know that people need hope to keep living.
Plus, for many of us, things do get better with time. We have experienced it ourselves. We uncovered healing after abuse, we learned how to cope with disappointment, we found new medicine or new jobs or new lovers.
But I don’t think that’s everyone’s story. For so many folks I text with, things keep getting worse.
And so what do you do if that’s your story? [Read more…]