There is a rhetorical device called an enallage. An enallage is an effective grammatical mistake.* Usually it occurs in dialogue.
One example of an enallage is from the movie The Help. I have not seen this movie, and I don’t plan on ever seeing it, but I know this line from it: “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”By using “is” instead of “are,” the affirmations seem more genuine, more authentic. The grammatical error makes the quote more memorable.
Another example is from Jay-Z (or nearly any other rap song). In one of his songs, he says: “All the ballers is bouncin’/ they like the way I be leanin’.”
I doubt Jay-Z would have become as popular as he is if would have written grammatically correct lines all the time. “All the ballers are bouncing. They like the way I am leaning,” just doesn’t pack the same punch. The original, grammatically incorrect phrase seems more authentic.
And so, while grammatical mistakes are still mistakes, they can be used effectively, as they sometimes come across as more authentic than perfect grammar.
As humans, we have all made mistakes. Some of us carry around some serious baggage from mistakes we have made or are making. And we all have flaws.
But we like to hide our mistakes and flaws.
If you are looking for healing, you will not find it by being fake. You will not find it by pretending you are perfect.
An essential part of the healing process is authenticity. You need to admit you have problems before your problems can be helped.
Share your mistakes in safe places. Share your flaws with loving people. Share your wounds with compassionate healers.
Don’t be afraid to screw up.
When you share your mistakes, and share your flaws, and share your shortcomings, people will not see you as a failure. They will not see you as stupid.
They will see you as human.
So let your life function like an enallage. Give your mistakes and shortcomings and burdens a purpose. Let them create authenticity and begin the healing process.
*Arthur, Quinn. 2010. Figures of Speech: 60 ways to turn a phrase. Routledge.