A lot of people use God as a reason to end a relationship, or as a reason not to begin one. I think this has done a lot of damage to my own view of God, because it makes God out to be competition for a girl’s heart. He turns into the better-looking, better-loving, sweeter-talking, guy from high school who also has a better personality. He is always the competition, as well as the unattainable standard.
This view of God does a lot of damage to my heart, because I don’t want to love someone who will always steal away people I love. I don’t want the people I love to fall in love with someone who will take them away.
I don’t want girls to give our relationship over to God, because whenever they do, they tell me God wants them to break-up with me.
I don’t want girls to know Christ, because they will realize how I don’t compare to his perfection, and then leave me.
God becomes my competition, and he will always win. Sometimes this thinking leads me to hate God.
It’s a good thing this kind of thinking is wrong, at least in my opinion.
God does not like taking relationships, he likes redeeming them. In fact, that is God’s purpose for relationships, to love each other as Christ loves his church, and Christ loved his church by dying for it and redeeming it.
Jesus doesn’t want to take the place of our earthly relationships; he wants to redeem them.
Yes, it’s true that God probably does want us to get out of some relationships, or not to enter into ones, because he knows everyone completely and knows what is best for us. But I think, ultimately, that God lets us choose if we want to be in a relationship or not. In order for a relationship to work, it needs God’s redeeming, and God will redeem it when both members are willing to let him. That is the beauty of earthly relationships; not that they are perfect, but that God redeems them despite their imperfection.
Yes, some relationships are a bad idea or not healthy, but it is not because God doesn’t want it to happen. It is because of the people in it, their flaws or differences.
So this is my plea to not use God as an excuse to end relationships or to not enter into them. While it may be used to lessen hurt or to make your decision seem more legitimate, it only causes harm.
This is also a plea to be wise in relationships. I think a lot of our view of God is formed, whether for good or bad, from our relationships with lovers. If God is the lover of our souls, and chooses to primarily refer to himself in the context of a bride and groom, I think it’s important that we keep those things sacred. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t get into relationships, or should never end relationships, but just that we need to act Christ-like both in maintaining and ending them.
So I guess those are my thoughts. Love them, hate them, agree, disagree?
Nevertheless, guys, remember that Christ is not your competition. Girls, remember that your boyfriend or husband will never be Jesus.